If like me you are forty seven years old and on an online dating site then odds are pretty high that a fear of intimacy is most likely a problem for you just like it is for me.
Three years of intensive therapy have successfully reduced my fear of intimacy by a lot. My therapist suggested online dating as a way to make further progress with this issue so my purpose for online dating is a bit different than other people’s.
They want the quick fix of feeling it and feeling emotionally connected.
Equally, if he shows signs of one then it also might not mean he is emotionally unavailable and that it is just his personality.If he shows signs of a few of the below then it is more than likely that your man is emotionally unavailable.This sounds simple but its something I didn’t know how to do.I always had to please everyone else and therapy has changed my life by teaching me how to say no.Usually women complain about emotionally unavailable men. Maybe you’ve been betrayed or lied to in the past and now look for it in everyone. Do you avoid intimacy by filling quiet times with distractions? Are you uncomfortable talking about yourself and your feelings?Yet many aren’t aware they’re emotionally unavailable, too. Big and Carrie Bradshaw) disguises your problem, keeping you in denial of your own unavailability. Although people complain about their problems, many have even more difficulty accepting the good. Do you have secrets you’re ashamed of that make you feel undesirable or unlovable? Do you usually like to keep your options open in case someone better comes along? Do you fear a relationship may place too many expectations on you, that you’d give up your independence or lose your autonomy?