But in general, Chinese students leave high school with a lot less romantic experience than their American counterparts.For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.More so than Westerners, many Chinese view dating as a pragmatic affair.It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.It can be a form of courtship that consists of social activities done by the couple.The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.Other messages have stressed that Christians need to be much more counter-cultural.Joshua Harris, for instance, has promoted a model of courtship that harkens back to a model used broadly before modern dating evolved.
Because of China’s rigorous college entrance examination, dating is rarely tolerated among high school students. That doesn’t mean that Chinese teens don’t have high school crushes or even relationships (mostly secret ones).
The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate.
A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact.
If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult.
The system today's young men and women have inherited for finding and marrying a future spouse leaves a lot to be desired.